Of Soul Mate And Unattached Singles 'Balik Kampung'

My friend told me of this analogy - finding one's soul mate is like waiting for a cab. Sometimes you got a cab, sometimes you don't. If you got a cab with a good driver who is willing to send you to the place you wanted to go to, great.

At times, there will be a cab driver who wouldn't go to your desired destination. At times, there will be a cab driver who has agreed to send you to your desired location but changed his mind when there's a massive traffic jam or accident or landslide ahead. The cab driver will dropped you off at the nearest convenient location to him and ask you to get another cab.

Thanks for the analogy Ben. A very interesting one indeed. Thinking about soul mate reminded me of Eve's creation and the Hadith below.

The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said: "Treat women kindly. Woman has been created from a rib and the most bent part of the rib is the uppermost. If you try to turn it straight, you will break it. And if you leave it alone, it will remain bent as it is. So treat women kindly." (Bukhari and Muslim)

Without analyzing the Hadith, I have this vision of a woman who goes around putting her palm on one guy's chest after another; trying to feel a connection, trying to find her soul mate. But then again, scientifically speaking, that would make the men and women who are soul mates share the same DNA? That would be like marrying your family members. Yikes!!!

Some explanation on the Hadith and the creation of Eve is here and here. Lest someone would get the wrong idea, the gist of the explanation...

The Qur'an says only that Eve was created from "it." What this "it" refers to is the point in question. Most of those commentators who have penetrated deep into the meaning of the Qur'an have taken "it" to refer to "species": Eve was created - not from Adam himself - but from the same species as Adam. This is the explanation given - among others - by Abu Muslim Asfahani, and it is this explanation that fits in with other verses of the Qur'an.

Analogies and Hadith aside, Raya is near and many unattached singles will 'balik kampung' with mixed feelings. Partly, they will be looking forward to see family, relatives and friends. The other part would dread the never ending questions about their other half and the unwelcome match making efforts.

You will hear advices about not being too choosy, to lower your expectations and to just get married and produce offspring because you're supposed to. Don't falter, don't feel pressured even if your nieces and nephews have school going children already. If you're not ready, you're not ready. If you haven't found the one, you haven't found the one. Do not take the broken Len Seng bus cause you fear the right cab will never come.

Here are some rules on seeking your soul and its mate.

Happy 'Balik Kampung' to everyone :) Maybe a bit early for me to make a wish but who knows if I got busy next week and everyone would start taking leave and so would I and then I wouldn't have internet connection for a week. Sigh! Might as well make an early wish :D