About Love

This is not a review about 'Cinta' the movie but just my observation about love in general. It can be sweet and easy or quiet but deep or even like a roller coaster ride. No matter how it is, love is the greatest gift one can ever have. Sometimes it comes at a great price. It can also be an elusive thing to some people you'd wonder why some are worthy of this gift called love and some don't.

Some may have experienced it and know how it feels to be in love but they may put different rules on other people. For example, parents who disagree with their children's choice of potential spouse or the public on some celebrity's choice of their life partner.

You can't choose who you fall in love with or things would have been easier for everybody. You may like someone but the feelings is not reciprocated and someone may like you but no matter how hard you try, you can't love them back the way they want it.

"No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE. No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK. And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by CHOICE."

Probably some of you have a long list of criteria your future wife or husband should have. Chances are, for those who are already married, not many of your spouses fulfill all your criteria. You can like someone for no reason whatsoever, no matter what's on your list.

It's funny listening to stories like he's a breast man but ended up with someone whose posterior is more well endowed than the chest :) Or; she doesn't like someone who snores but ended up with someone who snores like a train and she couldn't sleep when the 'train' is not around.

Movies like to use the 'triangle love' theme. The 'interferer' would be portrayed with many negative values to get the audience to side with the hero or heroin in the story. The 'good' party would be very kind and gentle and wouldn't hurt a single soul, even the 'interferer'. Or, if the 'interferer' were nice, he or she would end up with someone else at the end of the movie and all the couples would live happily ever after.

Things are not that simple in real life. The 'interferer' may have true feelings, whose heart could be hurt and broken to pieces. But most people have dictated that if you're the 'interferer', there is a different set of rules when it comes to the matters of the heart. Leave! Easy for most of us to give that advice until when we're in that position ourselves.

Anyway, I truly believe time heals all wounds. Maybe by the time it heals, you may have to learn how it is to love again since you have forgotten how to act or what to do when you love someone. There may be scars but it will still heal. If Romeo and Juliet, or Laila and Majnun didn't die; if Shah Jehan was not imprisoned, they could probably find another love.

Is love all you need? There's the sacrifice, the give and take, the financial considerations, the in-laws and outlaws :D, the skeleton in the closet and many other parameters in the equation. Maybe love IS all you need. But then again, maybe not. What do I know about love anyway.

There are parents who love their children but couldn't let their children live their own life and make their own mistakes; there are people who claim they love someone but won't let him or her do what they want in life; there are children who said they love their parents but couldn't find the time to spend with them.

I think I can go on and on about my observations on love. Love is a gift. It may come in different packages - nice wrapper with ribbons, old newspaper with raffia ropes, gift bags with candies and flowers or the supermarket plastic bag :) No matter how it is, we should appreciate the loves in our life the best way we can. Just remember for some people, love is an elusive thing. Like a priceless gem that one can't afford or not worthy to have.