Thursday, February 24, 2005

When Are You Getting Married?

So when are you getting married? My boss asked while taking two steps back. He has this habit of taking few steps back whenever he feels his questions gonna met with my wrath. Before that, he was hanging over my cubicles like some unwanted decoration. I hate it whenever he does that... hovering over me. If he happens to do that when I'm having lunch, I'll give him this glare. I don't care what he thinks. I want to have my lunch in peace and quiet. Having him standing there looking at me eat is going to give me indigestion.

Well, back to that 'M' question. The question arises because he's talking about hiring more people. No matter how much sex indiscrimination talk at a work place is out there, employers are still hesitant to hire females who are married, especially young ladies when pregnancy and maternity leave will come into the picture. I don't blame employers totally. When a company, especially small ones, hires new staff, they want people who can work for at least for 1-2 years before having to deal with maternity leave. That is just common sense for an organization who's surviving on its own financial source for so long.

My reply to him, "Why you so kay-poh one?" And he retorts, "I need to do my manpower planning!" I didn't answer him and after some more talking (he talks, I pretend to listen), he left. Oh God... he can really talk until my face turns blue.

Only last week, somebody asked me the same question. What is it with these people? They probably thought marriage is my only goal now, or the only goal of single ladies out there. I have to disappoint them and am being very happy to do that.

What I want is to be happy. I'm not exactly unhappy now but I feel like there is something else out there for me. Something that will probably change my life, yank me out of my comfortable zone and gives me the exuberance I once have when I started working... when everyone started working. After a while, all the enthusiasm and joy of working dissipated in inverse relationship with ones age. Whatever that something is, I haven't figured it out yet. But I know it is out there.

And no, marriage talk did not give me the exuberance feeling I'm looking for.

3 comments:

Applegal said...

Next time he asks, look at him, smile and ask: "When are you proposing?" XD Dunno whether that will get you into trouble though, so err, better not try ^_^;;

S.U.E said...

iyyeerrr... applegal, no way am i going to say that unless he's tall, dark, handsome and available :)

for the record, he's my parents age, certainly not handsome, with habits i can't stand.

Acat said...

quikfire answers to said question:

'what u still haven't got the invites?'

'kawin sudah nikah aje belum'

etc etc