Misyar: Finally Someone With Sense

Finally, there is someone with sense. Dr. Syed Ali Tawfiq Al-Attas gave relevant points after points. Shame on the Prof. Refer original article here and the PDF version here.

Extracts:

1. “We have to ask if the problem relates to Muslim women finding it hard to get married or the women choosing to be single? Then only can we start looking for solutions”.
   
2. Dr Syed Ali said Islam advocated justice and responsibility in marriage. He added that men intending to marry must give an undertaking that they were honest, responsible and able to give just treatment to their wife and her family.
   
3. “I don’t understand why Muslims now are bringing up matters that are trivial and which only serve to bring confusion and worries to society,” he added. He said the issue was not prevalent in the times of Prophet Muhammad. He added that Muslims must look back in history to find out when the practice actually started.
   
4. “We have many unresolved issues affecting Muslims that we need to take care of, such as increasing divorce rates, truancy in schools and universities and girls excelling over boys in their studies.”

Spot on Dr! Spot on!

I'm confused though with a statement by the president of Single Mothers Association Malaysia, “If we look at marriage as a shared responsibility, we can resolve a lot of problems faced by unmarried women”.

I wonder what the problems are? What problems do you have being single? The society look at you differently? That's not the women's problem isn't it? That's the society's problem. As far as I can see, an unmarried woman only has her laundry to think about, her lunch, her dinner, her outstation work, her money (or lack of it), her job, her mess in the house and everything hers, which some married-with-problem-women look at with envy.

I'm not declaring I'm off marriage. I do want to get married to a responsible man who wants to 'provide' for his family but being single is OK too. It is not death penalty, there is no problem at all. It would take a strong emotional bonding for any women to agree to share (yeah right) doing all the laundry in the house, cleaning up everyone's mess, preparing a proper meal instead of yesterday's leftovers or maggi mee if they're tired and so on. Lust does not provide that bond.