Controlling Thy Husband

It amazes me to hear what some women do to 'control' their husband and what some men are willing to put up with. The male colleagues in my office have a "mengadu nasib" session just after office hour today. They told their version in banter and laughter but at times I felt like shaking my head in disbelief.

Here are some of the things these husbands have to put up with. Every time one of the guys has to attend outstation meeting or training, he has to give the official memo to his wife. Even if there is no convenient flight/bus/train back after the meeting/training, by hook or by crook, he still has to reach home on the same day. Doesn't matter if they have to wait till midnight or reach their destination at the wee hours of the morning.

One guy received an SMS from his female client stating a meeting location to pass the documents for her hire purchase application. The following day he discovered his hand phone went missing for a week. It turned out the wife kept his hand phone for several days to monitor if the same female client sends more SMS or calls him.

Another guy resorted to changing the names of female clients to male names. It is very funny though coz later he has to crack his skull figuring the real name of the sender hehehe.... Just imagine if he has more than 10 female names that he has changed to Mr. Wong – Perodua, Abu Bakar – EON, Halim – ABC Sdn Bhd and so on. He said it is worth the trouble rather than having to answer 1001 questions from the wife and putting up with her tantrums.

One guy can't get an early flight or bus for any outstation trip. The wife won't allow it except if his boss comes to pick him up. Didn't she care if the husband gets any rest after a tiring trip? The funny thing is, later he came back from one of the trip without the boss because the boss has another meeting to attend to. It is the boss's wife who gets suspicious this time and ask 1001 question until he produces the proof.

Of course I have to mention the frequent phone calls, checking with colleagues and so on. These are all nice men who take it in stride and good-naturedly. I have a feeling they won't be like that if they really have something to hide. I wonder why these wives want to spend all that energy monitoring the husband. This is nothing like how I envision Muslim women should treat their husband.

If the men wanted to do anything hanky-panky, they'll find a way no matter what. What if something happen to the husband during the journey because they demand the husband reach home after the outstation meeting/training come tornado or thunderstorm. What if it is fated the husband will marry another anyway? Didn't they want to believe in God's will anymore? Kun fayakuun.

While I have always disagree with polygamous marriages, the current scenario among our local celebrities makes me hold my opinion. Hmmm.... thinking if I have ever sang in the kitchen while I was younger :) If much older men are a possibility, so is much younger or married right? Anything is possible and that is a frightening thought.