Sometimes when I felt hurt or sad by remarks made during a conversation, I'd smile. It takes a lot of practice to do that without appearing awkward when you're face to face with the person making that remark. It gets a lot easier in email or chat. The smiley :) can be a big help. Then I can cry my hearts out in private coz like it or not crying is a good way to clean up the system.
I'd smile when I'm feeling nervous. Luckily I don't have stage fright when I have to give training or demo but I'd smile to make the participants feel at ease or feel I'm more approachable.
I'd smile when I don't want to agree or disagree. This mormally happens when I have an opinion but feels arguing about it is pointless. Normally happens with my mom or my boss hehehe...
I'd smile when I have no idea what to say. Malays have this weird habit of asking obvious questions like "tengah buat apa tu?" or "tengah makan ker?" when you can obviously see whatever they are doing. If you're approaching a group of people you know, you're kinda expected to ask that most obvious question or people would start thinking you are a snob. Normally I'd just smile.
I'd smile watching kids enjoying themselves, or upon seeing beautiful sceneries / flowers / butterflies / animals antics / sweet couples, when I'm day dreaming and many more reasons.
Do you think some of these smiles are dishonest smiles? Does it matter? It is an honest reaction to a certain situation even though smiling may not be an appropriate reaction to what I'm feeling inside.
Sunflower gives the connotation of cheerfulness, bright, jolly, merry... you get the idea! However, if any content in this blog didn't fit the cheerfulness implied by its name, look at it this way... I'm putting down all the wretchedness, gloom, melancholy feeling in here so I can continue living up to the expectation of making the association to the sunflower.
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